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As my business has grown, I have been blessed to meet and recruit people who are more intelligent than I am. They have built upon my dreams a genuinely groundbreaking company, and now I am in a season where I can begin to transition the stewardship of these dreams to better and younger people. This affords me, amongst many luxuries, the ability to spend more time in Norway, a place that has shaped me and become a second home. This blog will encourage my two homes to learn from each other.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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One of my favourite customs in Norway is “fellesferie,” which means “joint holiday”. It is a time in summer when all Norwegians have the right to take a vacation simultaneously. This means most businesses are closed or limited staff so people can reunite with loved ones in the brief summer sun.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

At the invitation of my sister-in-law, we were recently able to spend time by the sea at a modest cabin packed close together with family, including adult nephews and nieces and their romantic partners. We went fishing, hiked, and played board games; our favourite was Secret Hitler. Secret Hitler is a social deduction game about stopping Hitler and a fascist takeover. Players are secretly divided into two teams: the liberals, who have a majority, and the fascists, who are hidden from everyone but each other. It was super Hygge to hunt Nazis together. I recommend it.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

One afternoon, the young adults went fishing alone and came home with a messy net of tangled fishing line. I have seen many tangled lines, but this one was perhaps the worst. My brother-in-law and I saw a challenge, maybe a bonding opportunity, and used the next few days to take turns recovering the mess. If you know me, you will learn two things I love: fishing and a good metaphor. So, as I took my turn with this task, an analogy came to mind.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Any parent fishing with their children will likely have spent time untangling fishing lines. It is the instinct of new anglers when they meet a tangle to try to apply pressure and yank the line free. This often has the unfortunate outcome of turning a tangle into a tight knot and creating new tangles. As you struggle and pull, wild things may emerge. We instruct our children “not to pull on the line”; instead, slow down, and let’s begin to unravel the tangle carefully.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Our lives and our anxieties are much the same. The more we rush to “pull on the line,” to judge others hastily, and to allow perceived judgments to influence us, the tighter we pull these emotional knots. We quickly develop triggers that act like new tangles and become new knots when force is applied. And like a nylon fishing line, once a knot is removed, the line retains its memory, making it easier for knots to reform quickly.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Recent societal shifts in the U.S. signal a yearning for kinder, less combative communication. After navigating intense political divides and a relentless pandemic, there’s a collective pivot towards a gentler perspective. Consider the meteoric rise of “Ted Lasso” on Apple T.V. While its Emmy accolades highlight brilliant acting and scripting, the show’s unique appeal lies in its titular character. With all his vulnerabilities, Coach Lasso radiates a transformative, non-violent worldview. His tenacious faith and humility shine despite insurmountable challenges and a world conspiring against him. His ethos resonates with many, especially those seeking sanctuary from ruthless workplaces.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Ted Lasso’s leadership mirrors an essential truth: lasting change doesn’t come from force but from unwavering belief. While the pandemic made businesses cede control, it unveiled an undeniable reality \u2013 trust isn’t just a virtue; it’s a necessity. As Ted’s office sign proclaims, “Believe.”<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In this context, “believing” means letting go, trusting, and embracing authenticity in both the boardroom and our living room. The echoes of this philosophy resonate in movements like Quiet Quitting<\/em> and The Great Resignation<\/em>. The message is clear and powerful: “Stop pulling on the line”.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Having spent time abroad, I am increasingly convinced that the whole world, and even more so, Americans, must learn to act and communicate less violently. But particularly now and in the U.S., we are tying ourselves in so many knots that it is increasingly difficult to see a future together.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Like a violent response to a tangled line, violent communication, which is much of the topic of this blog, creates knots from simple tangles and draws conflict based on the judgment of ourselves and others. Only after my father passed away a few years ago, someone to whom many knots had formed in our relationship, I learned this lesson when someone introduced me to Non-Violent Communication and the work of Marshal Rosenberg. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

I wish I could have found this twenty years ago; my relationship with my father would have been entirely different. It immediately started to reshape my relationships, and while I still live with “line memory,” it has improved my life exponentially. We need to learn to stop creating knots. We are tying ourselves in knots and attracting new tangles individually and collectively as a country. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

It’s time to stop pulling on the line.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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Etter hvert som virksomheten min har vokst, har jeg v\u00e6rt s\u00e5 heldig \u00e5 m\u00f8te og rekruttere mennesker som er smartere enn meg. De har bygd videre p\u00e5 dr\u00f8mmene mine og skapt et virkelig banebrytende selskap. N\u00e5 er jeg i en fase hvor jeg kan begynne \u00e5 overf\u00f8re forvaltningen av disse dr\u00f8mmene til yngre og mer kompetente hender. Dette gir meg \u2013 blant mange privilegier \u2013 muligheten til \u00e5 tilbringe mer tid i Norge, et sted som har formet meg og blitt et annet hjem. Denne bloggen skal oppmuntre mine to hjem til \u00e5 l\u00e6re av hverandre.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

En av mine favorittskikker i Norge er fellesferie<\/em>, som betyr \u00abfelles ferie\u00bb. Det er en tid om sommeren hvor alle nordmenn har rett til \u00e5 ta ferie samtidig. Dette betyr at de fleste virksomheter enten stenger eller g\u00e5r p\u00e5 redusert bemanning, slik at folk kan gjenforenes med sine kj\u00e6re i det korte sommersolskinnet.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

P\u00e5 invitasjon fra svigerinnen min fikk vi nylig tilbringe tid ved sj\u00f8en i en enkel hytte, tettpakket med familie, inkludert voksne nieser og nev\u00f8er og deres kj\u00e6rester. Vi fisket, gikk turer og spilte brettspill \u2013 favoritten v\u00e5r var Secret Hitler<\/em>. Secret Hitler<\/em> er et sosialt deduksjonsspill om \u00e5 stoppe Hitler og et fascistisk maktovertak. Spillerne er hemmelig delt inn i to lag: liberalerne, som er i flertall, og fascistene, som er skjult for alle andre enn hverandre. Det var super-hygge \u00e5 jakte nazister sammen. Jeg anbefaler det p\u00e5 det varmeste.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

En ettermiddag dro de unge voksne ut og fisket alene, og kom hjem med et rotete garn av sammenfiltret fiskesn\u00f8re. Jeg har sett mange sammenfiltringer f\u00f8r, men denne var kanskje den verste. Svogeren min og jeg s\u00e5 en utfordring \u2013 kanskje en mulighet til \u00e5 knytte b\u00e5nd \u2013 og brukte de neste dagene p\u00e5 \u00e5 ta turer med \u00e5 l\u00f8se opp i rotet. Hvis du kjenner meg, vet du at det er to ting jeg elsker: fisking og en god metafor. S\u00e5, mens jeg gjorde min del av arbeidet, slo det meg en analogi.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Enhver forelder som har fisket med barna sine, har sannsynligvis brukt tid p\u00e5 \u00e5 l\u00f8se opp i fiskesn\u00f8rer. Det er instinktivt for nye fiskere \u00e5 fors\u00f8ke \u00e5 trekke hardt og rykke i sn\u00f8ret for \u00e5 f\u00e5 det l\u00f8s. Dette f\u00f8rer ofte bare til at floken blir til en tett knute \u2013 og kanskje nye floker. Jo mer du strever og trekker, jo mer kaos oppst\u00e5r. Vi l\u00e6rer barna v\u00e5re \u00e5 ikke dra i sn\u00f8ret<\/em>; i stedet, ta det rolig \u2013 la oss begynne \u00e5 n\u00f8ste forsiktig opp floken.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Livene v\u00e5re og angsten v\u00e5r fungerer p\u00e5 samme m\u00e5te. Jo mer vi haster med \u00e5 dra i sn\u00f8ret<\/em>, d\u00f8mmer andre raskt, og lar opplevde vurderinger p\u00e5virke oss, desto strammere drar vi til de emosjonelle knutene v\u00e5re. Vi utvikler raskt triggere som fungerer som nye floker, og som blir nye knuter n\u00e5r det ut\u00f8ves press. Og som med et nylonsn\u00f8re, selv n\u00e5r en knute er l\u00f8st, beholder linjen en hukommelse<\/em>, noe som gj\u00f8r det lettere for nye knuter \u00e5 dannes raskt igjen.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

De siste samfunnsmessige endringene i USA signaliserer et behov for vennligere, mindre konfronterende kommunikasjon. Etter \u00e5 ha levd gjennom intense politiske splittelser og en n\u00e5del\u00f8s pandemi, skjer det et kollektivt skifte mot et mildere perspektiv. Se bare p\u00e5 den meteoriske suksessen til Ted Lasso<\/em> p\u00e5 Apple TV. Selv om Emmy-prisene anerkjenner str\u00e5lende skuespill og manus, ligger seriens unike appell i hovedpersonen. Med alle sine s\u00e5rbarheter str\u00e5ler trener Lasso et transformerende, ikke-voldelig verdensbilde. Hans ukuelige tro og ydmykhet skinner gjennom selv i m\u00f8te med umulige utfordringer og en verden som motarbeider ham. Hans etos resonerer sterkt, s\u00e6rlig blant dem som s\u00f8ker tilflukt fra n\u00e5del\u00f8se arbeidsmilj\u00f8er.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Ted Lassos lederskap speiler en viktig sannhet: varig forandring kommer ikke gjennom makt, men gjennom urokkelig tro. Under pandemien ble mange bedrifter tvunget til \u00e5 gi slipp p\u00e5 kontroll \u2013 og avdekket en uunng\u00e5elig realitet: tillit er ikke bare en dyd; det er en n\u00f8dvendighet. Som det st\u00e5r p\u00e5 skiltet i kontoret hans: Believe.<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n

I denne sammenhengen betyr \u00e5 tro<\/em> \u00e5 gi slipp, stole p\u00e5, og omfavne autentisitet \u2013 b\u00e5de i styrerommet og i stua. Denne filosofien gjenlyder i bevegelser som Quiet Quitting<\/em> og The Great Resignation<\/em>. Budskapet er klart og sterkt: Slutt \u00e5 dra i sn\u00f8ret.<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Etter \u00e5 ha tilbrakt tid i utlandet, er jeg stadig mer overbevist om at hele verden \u2013 og kanskje s\u00e6rlig amerikanere \u2013 m\u00e5 l\u00e6re seg \u00e5 handle og kommunisere mindre voldelig. Akkurat n\u00e5 knytter vi oss selv opp i s\u00e5 mange knuter at det blir stadig vanskeligere \u00e5 se en felles fremtid.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Akkurat som et voldelig svar p\u00e5 en sammenfiltring, skaper voldelig kommunikasjon \u2013 som er mye av temaet i denne bloggen \u2013 knuter av enkle floker, og f\u00f8rer til konflikt basert p\u00e5 vurderinger av oss selv og andre. F\u00f8rst etter at faren min gikk bort for noen \u00e5r siden \u2013 en mann jeg hadde mange emosjonelle knuter med \u2013 l\u00e6rte jeg denne leksen. Det skjedde da noen introduserte meg for Ikke-voldelig kommunikasjon<\/em> og arbeidet til Marshall Rosenberg.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Jeg skulle \u00f8nske jeg hadde oppdaget dette for tjue \u00e5r siden. Forholdet til faren min ville v\u00e6rt helt annerledes. Det begynte umiddelbart \u00e5 forme om mine relasjoner. Og selv om jeg fortsatt lever med \u00ablinjehukommelse\u00bb, har det forbedret livet mitt dramatisk. Vi m\u00e5 l\u00e6re \u00e5 slutte \u00e5 lage knuter. Som individer og som nasjon knyter vi oss selv i knuter og tiltrekker oss nye floker.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Det er p\u00e5 tide \u00e5 slutte \u00e5 dra i sn\u00f8ret.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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